zondag 25 september 2016

Counseling and challenges


A child does not always tell the truth in counselling. They use different names, do not want to tell where their family is from, etc. It is a big challenge for our counsellors.



The children who are in Malimbe have to go home during the holidays. The idea is that usually it is possible for a short period for them to be at home, they will have become more resilient during their stay with us and the burden on the family is not so big. We want them to stay in contact with the family as our end goal is to reunite them at some point. However not everybody can go home, sometimes we really cannot find the family. This child will have to go to the Back Home House during the holidays. They are not always happy about this as they feel they do not belong with these street children.



A boy who has been with us a long time is facing this issue. Let’s call him Charley. His father is a refugee from Rwanda and cannot be found, his mother is a drunk who roams the street. Hem is always said when he has to go to BHH because, as he says with tears in his eyes “I do not have a family”.

 


Recently he told our counsellor that he could remember an aunty. He had mentioned before a family where his mother used to work, so the counsellor asked if she was really his aunty or if it was this family. No, he assured, it was really his aunty. So they went together to this family. They were welcomed with open arms. When the counsellor mentioned that she was bringing him home for the holidays the atmosphere changed. The boy was sent outside to play and then the lady told our counsellor that she is not related to the boy at all. It turned out that they were the family where his mother used to work. After our counsellor explained the situation and told them about how this boy really was looking forward to spending the holidays in a real family and how his behaviour had improved, they decided to open their house to him and keep him for the holidays. I was very happy when I heard this as the boy has a special place in my heart.

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